Yesterday was a weird day for me. You might have realised that there was no #BLOGMAS post on day 9. I got a message on Instagram that then consulted in a full-blown discussion and me breaking down.
It was quite ironic. The day before I had written a blogpost about not minding about what others think about me. Yesterday I had to learn that even though I don’t mind about what people think about my character, I still can’t live with critique or hatred. Someone messaged me saying:
“Your put-on English accent is the most annoying thing I know and makes me cringe every time I hear it.”
I just quickly mentioned that on Snapchat, and suddenly got so many messages back. A lot of love – but quite some messages as well that said things like “I know what she means.”, “Your English was hard to get used to.”, “Your English sounds so weird when you …”, “You should try … when speaking English.” and lots of advice.
Guys! My accent is something I can’t change! If your critique was constructive and I behaved unpleasantly, that would be something I could change! But my accent? Please! And if you don’t like the way I speak, why do you follow me at all?
This really pulled me down and made me question myself. Especially as this wasn’t the first thing that went wrong in the last couple of days (the hatred towards my picnic and the tiny number of giveaway entries had totally crashed my confidence already!). But then some of you reminded me of what really counts: “There are a handful of haters. And there is a big bunch of people who love you!” At some point I had 94 unopened messages on my Snapchat. I went through all of them. One was critique. 93 were love and support. Why, why, why do I care about that one message so much? Why, why, why does that handful of people manage to hurt me so bad? Why, when there is so many kind, loving people out there?
I guess it is because I always do my best. I always give my best. I want to do everything right – and then when someone criticises the one thing I can’t change, that hurts.
But you are so right, and I still have lots to learn. Love should win over hatred. Especially stupid comments like this should go in one ear, and out the other. If one person doesn’t like me, I shouldn’t care. Constructive critique should be considered, but if I know that I haven’t done anything wrong, I shouldn’t mind. I should stay strong and keep doing what I think is right.
Another thing to learn: we should share love. If we know that the receiver will be hurt, then keep your mouth shut. Rather say something to make other people happy. When someone pretty sends me a selfie on Snapchat, I tell her that she’s beautiful. When someone messages me something nice, I tell them that they’re kind. I say it, when I like someone. Those things bring light to this world, and why would anyone want to spread darkness? I definitely want to be someone to make other people happy – always!
Sorry for skipping yesterday’s #BLOGMAS, lovelies! But I promise, as were getting closer to Christmas, the presents are getting better and better and on some days you can even win several things! And as someone asked for the rules once more, here they come again (I didn’t want to write long rulebooks underneath every post, because I didn’t think that was necessary. But sorry if you were wondering!! Now I’m trying to make everything right).
Every day until 24.12. a giveaway will be posted on one of my channels (usually my blog, but also Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or YouTube). You can enter by commenting on the post. The winner will always be chosen on the next day, at 22:00, and will be mentioned in the same post. You need to check it again to find out who won / on Instagram the winner will get a notification when he is tagged.
PS. Today’s giveaway of a Matcha Set is on Facebook! I’d love you to enter!